Erotic Empathy® is a psycho-sexual therapy approach for individuals, couples, and relationships, seeking greater fulfillment from their erotic lives. This non-judgmental sex-positive mental health treatment approach integrates humanistic elements, Dialectical and Cognitive Behavioural techniques, and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy techniques, among others.
Erotic Empathy® models and fosters communication, sexual, and emotional regulation skills within a psychotherapeutic alliance. In particular, it helps the client develop “interpersonal mindfulness” otherwise known as attunement within their partnered sexual experiences.
Clients are often looking for help finding, moving on from, or improving their relationships with either a partner, partners, or with themselves. You might seek to improve your sexual satisfaction, rekindle desire, discuss desire discrepancies in your relationship, reconcile sexual and/or erotic identity, or you might simply seek guidance being more adventurous. Some common topics addressed in session are extremes of arousal and desire, difficulties with body image, genital body image, performance anxiety, self-criticism, sexual inhibition, sexual aversion, childhood trauma, sexual assault at any age (within marriage, by an acquaintance, date, or stranger), incest, and abuse of various types.
Trans folks are welcome to work with me through their process, as well through non-Trans specific topics while knowing their gender identity is safe in the room. Bathrooms on my floor are individual and non-gender specific.
I do not specify couples therapy as all relationship configurations are welcome. Being kink-knowledgeable and poly-friendly is a value of Erotic Empathy®. BDSM, D/s dynamics as either kinks or lifestyle choices, as well as a variety of fetishes and identifications are welcome. Those "in the lifestyle", and non-monogamous after many years as well as those who curious and/or exploring, are encouraged to seek help here.
The newer, very popular label "sex addiction" or "porn addiction" is not one used here. Rather, those who feel their sexual beahviour is out of control may find Erotic Empathy®'s non-pathologizing approach helpful as it that takes into account a sex-positive normalizing of sexual wellness as a key component of mental health. Through integration of mindfulness strategies and other increasingly evidence-based techniques, reclaiming control and wellness from one's erotic life contributes greatly to an over all experience of well-being and fulfillment.
Uniquely, Erotic Empathy® implements the Relationship Shared Values Primer (RSVP) to therapy for relationships in which one or both partners have a history of sexual trauma. A primary intervention of the Erotic Empathy® approach, this interactive psycho-educational intervention fosters safe conditions for efficient results prior to beginning treatment. A case study of the R.S.V.P. was published in the academic peer-reviewed Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in January of 2020.